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About My Mother
 
 
  
 
 
 
Rublelene Kelley Singleton
January 23, 1933 - November 09, 2004
  
  
Jan 23, 1933 - Nov 9, 2004
 
  
 
Mom, I remember your telling me so many mornings that you had dreamed of the
most beautiful flower's of all kinds, just field's and field's full. Now I wonder if God
was giving you a glance of what Heaven would be like. Your love for nature and
of the flower's you dreamed so often of. I hope your dream is now reality there. I
will always remember your saying, "I dreamed of my flowers again last night.
  
Welcome Home
We Can Only Imagine What Heaven Is Like
 
Rublelene Kelley Singleton
January 23, 1933 - November 9, 2004
 
The Legacy of my Mother
Rublelene Kelley Singleton
1933 - 2004
Born January 23, 1933 in Henderson County in Tennessee in the Cane Creek/Shady Hill Community as Lee Rublelene Kelley, daughter of the late Ruble Kelley and the late Ruby Snider Kelley.
 
Married her husband of 52 years, Ancle E. Singleton, son of the late Ellison and Annie Mae Singleton of Scotts Hill, TN. on the 6th day of January, 1952.
She leaves that most loved husband and one son, Michael Anthony Singleton of Scotts Hill, TN. born on the 18th day of July, 1958. She also leaves behind four brothers; Bill Snider of Scotts Hill, TN., Harold Rogers of Jackson, TN., Jack Rogers of Milledgeville, TN., Toney Rogers of Scotts Hill, TN. Three sisters; Maxine Tomblin of Parsons, TN., Diane Montgomery of Scotts Hill, TN., Janie Graves of Scotts Hill, TN.
She was proceeded in death by her parents; Ruble Kelley and Ruby Snider (Kelley) Rogers of Scotts Hill, TN, Her grandparents Carl and Burmer Kelley of Scotts Hill, TN., William and Maude Snider of Scotts Hill, TN. Three uncles; Cody Kelley of Paris, TN., Travis Kelley of Memphis, TN, Paul Snider of Scotts Hill, TN. She leaves two aunts Lorraine Kelley Willis of Memphis, TN, and Carrie Snider Williams of Parsons, TN.. She also leaves behind many cousins, nieces and nephews, and friends.
She was a member of the Scotts Hill Church of Christ of which she was an active member until health problems prevented her involvement.
My mother had many health problems in the latter years of her life, she was a proud survivor of breast cancer after learning in April of 1996 that she had cancer in both breast which had to be removed. She was cancer free from that time until her death and was active in her local Relay For Life, and the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation. She was also involved with the American Cancer Society and the American Heart Society.
One thing that anyone that knew my mother could tell you was she loved to cook and that she was excellent at it. She was interviewed by Southern Living Magazine of Birmingham, AL. on different occasions the first being in 1991 when she was chosen by the magazine as one of the twelve top cooks across the south. My mother had many recipes published in Southern Living Magazine and their cookbooks over the years then was chosen as one of the 12 cooks of which she was so proud of. She was interviewed by Southern Living Magazine and had her photo published in the magazine on more than one occasion. My mother created her own recipes which was one of her favorite things to do. She collected cookbooks and would read each and every cookbook just as you or I would read a magazine or novel, from front cover to back. Her collection contains most all of the cookbooks published by Southern Living and many, many more as she had collected just over 3,000. She also had recipes published in numerous other publications and cookbooks over the years. She was a person that loved to cook for others as she cooked for the shut ins, elderly neighbors and friends or anyone she could find that would welcome one of her dishes or meals. She always thought of others first and her cooking was one way she showed just that in her own special way.
Other than her cooking and her church the other love of her life was her job with Pafford Funeral Home's of Lexington and Scotts Hill, TN. This was a perfect job and calling for her as she always did put others first and working with families during the most difficult times in their lives when they had lost a love one was very special, precious and perfect for my mother. She put her all into her job with the funeral homes and the care of the families that she helped to comfort during her many years working there. She loved the Pafford Family as she called everyone that is employees, and the owner Mr. Robert P. Helms was very special to her as she had told me on many occasions that Rob as he is know by everyone was not just her boss, but he was her little boy. She took Rob and his family under her wing and loved to pamper and spoil them on every opportunity just as she loved to do everyone. My being an only child and my mom telling me this so often I had the perfect reply, "I could search the world over and never find a better brother than Rob Helms" Everyone that knows Rob and his family knows exactly what I mean being the wonderful people and special part of our chosen family, and yes family they are to us..
My mother will long be remembered by so many all over this great country of ours as Mrs. Southern Living, the gourmet cook and lady that loved everyone. There would be no way to count all the friends she has made, not to mention all the extremely special friends and people in her life.
At the end my mother spent four weeks and four days hospitalized for problems due to congestive heart failure. She passed from this life into eternal life in the first hour of the morning of November 09, 2004. As hard as it is to give her up, and as much as I miss her and love her I know that now she is in Heaven looking down and watching over and praying for me and for everyone she knew.
Her cookbooks set silent on the shelves now, but the memory of her, and her cooking, along with all the kindness she showed to so many will continue to go on for many years to come.
I have to add that in this life my mother never knew her father Ruble Kelley as he was killed before she was born. My Grandfather Kelley died on August 12, 1932 and my mother was not born until January of the following year. My mother often cried in my presence especially on the date of her father's death always wondering what he was like, what would her life have been like if he had lived. The is something that was always on my mother's mind. I remember the last time that we had Christmas dinner with my Great Aunt, Lorraine Kelley Willis in Memphis, TN. on Christmas day 2003, when we were leaving for our just over 2 hour drive, my mother hugged her aunt very tightly and cried saying that she wanted to see and meet her father so badly. Her aunt, and her uncles on her father's side have told her many things about her father, what he was like, etc... but still not to have ever seen or known him filled my mother's heart with sorrow all her life. On that dreadful morning of November 09, 2004 in the very first hour just before 1:00am when my mother passed from this life, at the hospital emergency room after we had been told that she was gone and we were allowed to go and stay with her body, when I looked at her laying there that ever so beautiful and now most peaceful face of hers drew me to her. As I bent over her body, placing my hands on each side of her face, and gave her that goodbye kiss with the tears of my own grif flowing I whispered to her so softly, "Oh Mother You Have Finely Met Your Daddy, Tell Him All About Me, And That I Too Love Him, And Want Also To Meet Him One Day." I know that my mother and her father along with both her mother and both sets of grandparents and all the love ones that have gone on before us are all up there smiling and happy in our Lord's Beautiful Heaven with God The Father, and one day when my life fades from me and I join them there I too will be so happy. I have a very special Angel now in Heaven and she is looking, and watching over me here, and praying for me until I come to join her there.
I do miss you Mom, and I Love You So Much, just as so many other people do.
  
  
As epitaphs go I have thought of or found these for use for my mother;
I have left you behind,
In the path of the past,
With the white breath of flowers,
With the best of God's hours,
I have left you at last.
(This is an Irish Epitaph)
(And my favorite, from the words to one of mom's most loved songs,
"Danny Boy")
"And I shall hear, tho' soft you tread above me, and oh my grave will warm and sweeter be, if you'll not fail to tell me that you love me, I'll simply sleep in peace until you come to me."
Scroll all the way to the bottom to read all the words to "Danny Boy"
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there... I do not sleep.
I am the thousand winds that blow...
I am the diamond glints on snow...
I am the sunlight on ripened grain...
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you waken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of gentle birds in circling flight...
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry—
I am not there... I did not die...
  
 
Requiescat In Pace
May my mother Rublelene Kelley Singleton along with all the faithfully departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Eternal rest grant unto her oh Lord, and my perpetual light shine upon her. Amen +
(I dedicate this to my Mother Rublelene)
DEATH OPENS THE DOOR TO LIFE EVERMORE
We live a short while on earth below
Reluctant to die for we do not know,
Just what "dark death" is all about
And so we view it with fear and doubt,
Not certain of what is around the bend
We look on death as the final end,
To all that made us a mortal being
And yet there lies just beyond our seeing,
A beautiful life so full and complete
That we should leave with hurrying feet,
To walk with God by sacred streams
Amid beauty and peace beyond our dreams,
For all who believe in the Risen Lord
Have been assured of this reward,
And death for them is just "graduation"
To a higher realm of wide elevation,
For life on earth is a transient affair,
Just a few brief years in which to prepare,
For a life that is free from pain and tears
Where time is not counted by hours or years,
For death is only the method God chose
To colonize heaven with the souls of those,
Who by their apprenticeship on earth
Prove worthy to dwell in the land of new birth,
So death is not sad......it's a time for elation
A joyous transition......the soul's emigration,
Into a place where the soul's safe and free
To live with God through Eternity!
  
In Loving Memory of You
Quietly I'm remembering you
in the silence of my heart.
Each thought of you, a treasure
while we are now apart.
At times I'm filled with longing;
Your face I'd love to see,
To feel your warmth, to hear your voice,
to have you here with me.
But God has a plan; He created you
and numbered all your days.
May he hold you in His loving arms
and surround me with His grace.
With the hope of reunion in Heaven one day,
I entrust you in His care.
Cherished memories of you live on in my heart.
Your life is a gift we share.
 
   
Angel's Prayer
Most Holy Trinity - Father, Son, Holy Spirit - I adore You profoundly and offer You the most precious Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity of Jesus Christ, present in all the tabernacles of the earth, in reparation for the outrages, sacrileges, and indifference by which He Himself is offended. And by the infinite merits of His Most Sacred Heart and those of the Immaculate Heart of Mary, I beg of You the conversion of poor sinners. Amen. +
 
  
Rublelene Kelley Singleton
 
Please Visit This Site
www.paffordfuneralhome.com
Family Owned And Operated
Since 1883
 
D.D. Pafford - Royal R Pafford
Eva Pafford Helms
Robert P. Helms, Present Owner
Rublelene Loved Nature and all Wild Life
"Danny Boy"
Oh Danny boy, the pipes, the pipes are calling
From glen to glen, and down the mountain side
The summer's gone, and all the flowers are dying
'is you, 'its you must go and I must bide.
But come you back when summer's in the meadow
Or when the valley's hushed and white with snow
'this I'll be there in sunshine or in shadow
Oh Danny boy, oh Danny boy, I love you so.
And if you come, when all the flowers are dying
And I am dead, as dead I well may be
You'll come and find the place where I am lying
And kneel and say an "Ave" there for me.
And I shall hear,
tho' soft you tread above me
And oh my dreams will warm and sweeter be
If you'll not fail to tell me that you love me
I simply sleep in peace until you come to me.
Saint Patrick the apostle of Ireland was born in 387 and died March 17, 493. His prayer, popularly known as "St. Patrick's Breast-Plate", is supposed to have been composed by him in preparation for this victory over Paganism.
I arise today
Through a mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity,
Through a belief in the Threeness,
Through confession of the Oneness
Of the Creator of creation.
I arise today
Through the strength of Christ's birth and His baptism,
Through the strength of His crucifixion and His burial,
Through the strength of His resurrection and His ascension,
Through the strength of His descent for the judgment of doom.
I arise today
Through the strength of the love of cherubim,
In obedience of angels,
In service of archangels,
In the hope of resurrection to meet with reward,
In the prayers of patriarchs,
In preaching’s of the apostles,
In faiths of confessors,
In innocence of virgins,
In deeds of righteous men.
I arise today
Through the strength of heaven;
Light of the sun,
Splendor of fire,
Speed of lightning,
Swiftness of the wind,
Depth of the sea,
Stability of the earth,
Firmness of the rock.
I arise today
Through God's strength to pilot me;
God's might to uphold me,
God's wisdom to guide me,
God's eye to look before me,
God's ear to hear me,
God's word to speak for me,
God's hand to guard me,
God's way to lie before me,
God's shield to protect me,
God's hosts to save me
From snares of the devil,
From temptations of vices,
From every one who desires me ill,
Afar and near,
Alone or in a multitude.
I summon today all these powers between me and evil,
Against every cruel merciless power that opposes my body and soul,
Against incantations of false prophets,
Against black laws of pagandom,
Against false laws of heretics,
Against craft of idolatry,
Against spells of women and smiths and wizards,
Against every knowledge that corrupts man's body and soul.
Christ shield me today
Against poison, against burning,
Against drowning, against wounding,
So that reward may come to me in abundance.
Christ with me, Christ before me, Christ behind me,
Christ in me, Christ beneath me, Christ above me,
Christ on my right, Christ on my left,
Christ when I lie down, Christ when I sit down,
Christ in the heart of every man who thinks of me,
Christ in the mouth of every man who speaks of me,
Christ in the eye that sees me,
Christ in the ear that hears me.
I arise today
Through a mighty strength, the invocation of the Trinity,
Through a belief in the Threeness,
Through a confession of the Oneness
Of the Creator of creation
   
  
I Love And Really Miss You
Mom
Our Lord of the Divine Mercy
"Jesus I Trust In You"
 
 
 
Lovely Lady Dressed in Blue
Lovely Lady dressed in blue -------
Teach me how to pray!
God was just your little boy,
Tell me what to say!
Did you lift Him up, sometimes,
Gently on your knee?
Did you sing to Him the way
Mother does to me?
Did you hold His hand at night?
Did you ever try
Telling stories of the world?
O! And did He cry?
Do you really think He cares
If I tell Him things -------
Little things that happen? And
Do the Angels' wings
Make a noise? And can He hear
Me if I speak low?
Does He understand me now?
Tell me -------for you know.
Lovely Lady dressed in blue -------
Teach me how to pray!
God was just your little boy,
And you know the way.
  
St. Michael The Arch Angle, Defend Us In Battle And Be Our Safe Guard Against The Wickedness And Snares Of The Devil, May God Rebuke Him We Humbly Pray, And Do Thou Oh Prince Of The Heavenly Host By The Power Of God Cast Into Hell Satan And All The Evil Spirits That Prowl About The World Seeking The Ruin Of Souls. Amen +
 
Remember, O most chaste spouse of the Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who implored your help and sought your intercession was left unassisted. Full of confidence in your power I fly unto you and beg your protection. Despise not O Guardian of the Redeemer my humble supplication, but in your bounty, hear and answer me. Amen+
Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, Grant that I may not so much
seek to be consoled as to consoled;
To be understood as to understand;
To be loved, as to love;
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen+
  
 
 
Rublelene Your Always With Us In Spirit!
 
Rublelene's Favorite Rose
Queen Of The Most Holy Rosary Pray For Us
 
Remember O most gracious Virgin Mary that never was it known, that anyone who fled to thy protection, emplored thy help or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence I fly unto thee O Virgin of Virgin's my Mother Mary, to thee do I come. Before thee I come sinful and sorryful. O Mother of the word incarnate dispise not my paticions, but through thy love and mercy hear and answer them. Amen+
 
Rublelene Kelley Singleton
January 23, 1933 - November 09, 2004
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